I recently attended a funeral of my wife’s Grandmother, and we were talking about how most funerals are serious affairs. I was talking about how when I die, I don’t want my funeral to be so serious.. I may appear to be a pretty serious guy most times, but those who know me learn when I am kidding and when I am not. I would also like to be able to say that my life was WORTH celebrating, NOT mourning. Yes people will mourn the loss, but I don’t want it to be something that is dragged out and have people sad that I am not here. I would hope that there would also be a peace knowing I am going to a better place. SO you ask, what has this all got to do with suicide? Well, for one thing, death and suicide are synonymous, you can’t have one without the other as they both end up the same. In my thoughts I also realize how finite life really is and how much of it we take for granted. When one is contemplating ending their life, they are not able to consider the effect on others in quite the same way.

I have a friend, lets call her Rose,  she recently lost a guy she cared for, his friend and his sister all within a 2-3 month period. Now, in the midst of running into her we were talking about things like where is God in all of this, and why does he allow these things to happen? I was trying to explain that their deaths were not a part of God’s plan, but that free will makes it so they happen. the same is true of any suicide. She was saying that they were praying for the sister with a whole bunch of people and she still died. How is that possible? I know I don’t have the answer, only God does, but I sometimes wonder in our humanity, why we buy into the lie that says, “See, even God couldn’t do anything. You prayed and they are still gone.”  I know that we can’t change many things and as I get older I am starting to see more and more that I control less and less. We want so bad to be the ones in control, and yet we have none if any at all really. I suggested that instead of praying just for the person, you also pray that God would bring someone along to intervene, or to at least be in that place where that person is so that when they think of ending it all, there is someone to at least try and help them to realize what it really is that they are doing. In the end the truth of it is this. God HAS a plan, and HE KNOWS what he is doing even if we don’t. No one will ever truly understand what brings a person to such a drastic point that Death is the only option, but God knows, and He sees, and He Cares. He walks with us EVERY step of the way, and knows the heartache and loss that we are going through. HE LOVES US

Live Bravely!

Michael Lardie

Leave a reply